I personally believe in this correlation; I feel better when I spend time taking care of my look. I’ve always mentioned it on Bellalist posts, blogs and it’s even mentioned in Bellalist’s emails. Do you remember how it feels after you get groomed? Or when you wear your favorite shoes and outfit? But is it psychologically true?
Do your looks affect only your feelings or is it more than that?
Psychologically speaking, one of the best, most immediate and effective ways to feel better on the inside is to look better on the outside.
Looking good creates a loop: when you dress better, you feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, as a natural consequence of feeling better, you project this positive feeling outward to other people. So, you behave the way good looking people behave. This leads people to think that you act like “good looking girl so you must be, people believe what they see! So they treat you like you are. Being treated positively affirms your own positive feelings, and this is how the loop continues. (1)
All this helps in increasing self-esteem, which not only increases your confidence level, it even improves your emotional immunity level, which is resilient to anxiety and stress, meaning that you can actually impact your physical immune system as well!(2)
But does looking good affect people who don’t genuinely care about their look? I personally know many people who are not willing to put any effort to look good.
The effect of looking good even exceeds the points mentioned before. In psychology, it’s called the Halo effect, which means that tendency for positive impressions of a person, company, brand or product in one area to positively influence one’s opinion or feelings in other areas. How is this related to physical appearance: someone who is perceived as attractive, due in part to physical traits, may be more likely to be perceived as kind or intelligent. The role of attractiveness in producing the halo effect has been illustrated through a number of studies. Recent research, for example, has revealed that attractiveness may affect perceptions tied to life success and personality. (3)
This means that you might achieve more if you take better care of your looks.
BUT, isn’t this unfair? Don’t we have to deal with people depending on their inside traits?
Yes it might be unfair. And we should respect/ disrespect what people say or do without any bias. At the end of the day, looks shouldn’t be this important.
However, if you focus more on this, you will find that most of us do give some credit to the good looking people, you listen more, enjoy talking more with attractive, well groomed people.
We might not like this reality but the fact is that people who succeed don’t question reality, they are the ones who accept reality the way it is and use reality to their advantage.(4)
Taking care of your looks varies; it can be a spa day, hair or makeup appointment, nail care or as simple as taking time to style your hair in the morning. It depends on what makes you feel good.
I know we’re all very busy, but don’t sacrifice the way you look and feel! All you have to do is to request a pampering appointment at home, while you’re spending time with your family, reading a book or even watching your favorite tv series. Check www.bellalist.com